Tuesday, May 24, 2005

HE GOT IT

Pithicus got the job. THE JOB. The one where he gets paid to make games. GAMES. I'm so happy. SO HAPPY FOR HIM. t

hey have the NUMBER ONE BOARDGAME IN THE COUNTRY - in the first year they sold more than cranium and trivial pursuit combined...

i'm doing a dance of joy. lots of high kicks. very unsightly.

he gets to work in pioneer square and it sounds like he has a dream boss. No more commute to hell for him! no more boredom for him.

CONGRATULATIONS TO MY BABY!

champagne for everyone!!!!!!!!!!!

and he looks really hot and intellectual in his new glasses.

I'll have to post a pic soon...

Thursday, May 12, 2005

not so metallic rewards

(instead of coming up with a new entry - here's an email i just spent my daily writing quota on... finally replied to an old friend that i haven't spoken to in quite a while --- cut, paste, done)

- so sorry i' m so delinquent in returning your hello.
because i think you are fabulous - and hope you are very very well!!

it's my work email and it's been a bit fast forward here lately so for all my good intentions i never complete a response. (doh)
everything wedding - so i'm about to bore you - it's my current world and it's a strange one but hey you understand - after all you were there not so long ago....

life just became flavored with that slight metallic taste of stress.
it was so mellow for the longest time.
we found all the right people, put down deposits and beamed proudly at all the work we had done so early. so proud, so boast-y, such novices...

but now it's four months away and here we be. we've made spreadsheets and plotted charts and calendars. we have a map with miniatures too but we keep loosing people to the vacuum cleaner. it's not so bad as before we realized on paper the to do list could actually be done...

but then there is also the money.
so damn expensive...
gaining a whole new respect for the eloping elite.

we're going to italy for our honeymoon. and VERY excited about it. talking about it is now the respit from the other have-to's. maybe because it's just ours? maybe because it's ITALY!

and then there are the matters of health and circumstance. our parents are older and ailing and there are these phone calls of hospitals and dads and brains and hearts and spines and i think we were both over the fact that our parents aren't superhuman (that pedestal got kicked out so long ago) but the facts of frailty. and mortality. and our helplessness. of course it's nothing everyone else doesn't know all too well. were not special in this stress and sadness. but it is ours and it is prevalent and we want so much to be able to do something more than all this feeble nothing.

and then there is that metallic taste of stress. sometimes we even accidentally spit copper at each other. every once in a while - over the absolute silliest things (a dirty cutting board, some words said with the wrong inflection) but we've been learning the art of communication and argument (all part of the cohabitation lessons of love).

and we are so very in love - that still and evermore is the thing that is most amazing to me. that i have him. and he is perfect even in all of his imperfection and my life is now of us and not of me and i have never been so calm and quietly sure about what should be such a massive life altering thing.

aren't we supposed to be nervous? people pat him on the back and he blinks as they say hah: your freedom will be gone, and people say to me, hah, you'll have to train him to be a husband. and we look at them sorta sad because don't they know how wonderful it can be? maybe there is the chance that we are ignorant and becoming bitter and hateful is inevitable but i dont think so. i really dont think so. he says i am his freedom and i say he already is the perfect husband and we shrug and know that life is always going to have it's challenges - but it's already a good dream. and we're a family.

and then there is this wedding planning. registering (our most recent edeavor) is a very odd custom. i'm going to click on this wicker plate holder thingy and then some family member who i met once when i was really really short is going to buy it for me with a response that she cannot fly out to seattle but hopes i love the wicker plate holder thingy and best wishes for our new life together... and i will thank her, trying very hard to remember what she looks like while accidentally conjuring a mental picture of dame edna. and in the future when i am eating off of my warm earthenware plate sitting prettily on the wicker plate holder thingy, will i think of her?

then there's the wedding itself (which i need your address for) - as you and hopefully everyone will eventually be invited - even though there are these A B and C lists? of how one sends invitations - but we aren't really managing this...

so this is me and here i am making life altering decisions like: envelope lining colors, and pedestal types. and pithicus is thankfully very involved and coming along as we taste and touch and choose all the elements of a day that is our public display of connection and then... oh yes, then we are rewarded for so much time lost to tedium.

and what an awesome reward: walking the connecting cliffs from town to italian riviera town of Chinqua Terra, having a suit made for my 6'9" darling in Milan, being pushed through the stinky but romantic canals of venice, and sipping on some secret family recipe lemoncello while sitting on the family farm of the agritourismo owners while they point past the fields of sunflowers to another tuscan hillside town and regale us with stories of when this was the land fought over by warring families.... quiet unpublished stories of their own italian montigue's and capulet's and then i will taste metallic flavors NO MORE and only the sweet sweet wonders another world has made of the lemons life gave them.

Heh - ever start writing to a friend only to realize you are in that writing mood? anyway - i hope you are so very good and happy and healthy and please now will you rant back about you? you you you.

with dreams of pesto and chianti,
d

Friday, May 06, 2005

decemberists and fireworks

listening to the decemberists with pithicus
an empty bottle of shiraz
another night spent not cleaning
it's 9:30, dark, and pithicus is dreaming of his next tattoo
(one of his valentine's day presents)
and tomorrow i choose another shade of red
we have an ungodly list of wedding todo's
registering should be fun right?
but for now, we shirk responsibility and just hang out
full of cafe flora goodness
and pithicus, who is newly addicited to yoga, sits next to me doing hip openers
dont ask
we'll probably spend the next few hours on the internet together
drooling over the possibilities of everything we can do on our italian honeymoon
hmmmmm.
and a thunderstorm just started outside.
perfect.
* * * * * * * * * * * * *
okay that was out of left field.
we just watched a FULL ON FIREWORKS DISPLAY (literally) from our front window
neither of us have EVER seen such a massive show when it wasn't fourth of july????
we'll have to find out why the hell they had the show - but it was VERY cool.
apparently NOT a thunderstorm..

will post pics tomorrow...

Thursday, May 05, 2005

carving, yoga, dreams, y fiestas

Yesterday I wanted nothing more than to carve into my pumpkin arm. I think the feeling is akin to being a chained animal in an undesirable location sensing a really perilous outcome on the other end of deciding to just hang out to see what’s gonna happen next.
Work isn’t always my favorite. The people dynamics can drive me insane. I’m horrible at tuning things out when I loose my filter. And I totally lost it – on Monday. I have no idea where I set it down or when.
I’ll buy another on ebay.
Oh, and my momma sent me astrology charts for me and pithicus. It’s a little confusing with my sun trining the sextant of his Pluto in fifth house of our sagitarian cancer. But always fun to check out in that grain-of-salt-sorta-way.

Last night I dreamt in string-fu fashion. Was beautiful, vivid, and very cool. The kind of dream you want to put in the library so you can take it off the shelf and do it again. Definitely had something to do with yoga last night. Lots of chanting and meditation in the restoratives class.

I dug it. Though I need to memorize a little Sanskrit before I can attempt to follow along at that yogi’s pace again. The om’s on the other hand were pretty easy. The whole thing was SO freakin relaxing. I surprised myself once with a really good Frog pose. But tonight – he he – we sweat. I really look forward to feeling like jello tomorrow.

Happy cinco de mayo. We’re gonna celebrate it on siete de mayo. Estamos irendo a la fieste de los personas responsibilidad por nuestro amore. Well, sort of.

Wednesday, May 04, 2005

backs and babies

my x-step sister just had a baby. i called for a somewhat awkward congratulations and it ended up being the most sisterly conversation we've ever had. 30 hours of horrendous labor and a c-section later - she was pretty amazing to talk to. as distant as we are with nothing more than those unfortunate ten years, her mother that i could refer to as she-who-shall-not-be-named and the less memorable and occasional good times to bond on - it made me wonder at the possibility of more than the obligatory christmas get-together.

Monday my dad scared the crap out of me. got a call that he'd spent all night in the e.r. leaking spinal fluid. in severe pain. had to have a blood patch? the procedure sounded horrible. a ton of blood taken from his hand and injected into the base of his spine.

but a few days later, before they even know if everything is clotting, before they know that no more fluid is leaking, before they're sure he wont need to return to the hospital. i'm trying to get a hold of him all day yesterday - only to find - he went to work. i wanted to see how he was. to get some addresses for the all the grandmas and moms in my life - and he was at work - "Yes, the pain was unbearable, but i was so behind."

he'll need surgery. says he'll wait until after the wedding because there will probably be complications and he wants to give the hour long embarrassing speech. he made jokes about buying a do-it-yourself spinal surgery kit. asked me to help him - said i'm not the beneficiary any more though (he got married last fall to an awesome woman) - so there'd be no benefit from me messing up...

and now he says he wants to visit my x step sister and the new baby (he considers her a daughter - no pretense)... and i filled her in on the complications - the fact that he shouldn't even be driving - we agreed to strong arm him into waiting to visit... and here he is - driving into work?!?!

when i told him - pithicus smiled and gave me a "like father like daughter look"....

god, i hope not.

Tuesday, May 03, 2005

monday

Monday stretched diagonally across the bed, listening to the birds Doppler whistling as they swooped by her window. As sometimes magically happens, she woke up three minutes before the alarm. She watched the numbers change and smiled as NPR turned on in the middle of a story about endangered tree frogs in some south american jungle.

She crawled to the bottom of the bed and reached into the pile grabbing from it's depth, any outfit. The least dirty, the least color, the least shape, the least furthest from the edge of the bed. She walked to the bathroom, splashed her face with water, fingerbrushed her teeth, and took a pits-tits-and-ass shower at the sink. She pulled her hair back, sprinkled her clothes with water before throwing them into the stack dryer with a slightly used fabric softener sheet still stuck to the pile of unfolded clothing on the washer. Monday hated to iron.

Naked, shivering and still not quite awake, she reached into the fridge and pulled out a jello, a cucumber, an old chunk of cheese, and a banana then dumped them into a shopping bag: lunch. She heard the crescendoing chirps that meant she only had a few minutes before work. She opened the dryer at mid tumble and threw on her hot drab shapeless clothes. She swore and grabbed the cool jello container, holding it on her skin for a second. The back of the grip on her pants had scalded her beneath her belly button.

She grabbed her things, slipped into her shoes, and ran outside, down the block, and to her favorite old brick tower on the east horizon. She threw her bag over her back, vaulted up to the bottom rung and climbed up the slippery fire escape. She loved her usual spot. She took a long deep breath and folding her arms over her chest, she concentrated on the horizon's center point until a blinding yellow speckle grew and rose into a pink warmed sky.


The traffic hum began. all the shop owners started sliding back gates and putting out sidewalk chairs. All over the city people began reaching for their clock radios' snooze button. Monday sat on the brick corner and dangled her feet over the edge. She pulled out her banana and watched the garbage truck clunkily empty the dumpsters on the street beneath her. Another beginning to another week.

She snapped out of her proud job-well-done-moment with the feeling someone was staring at her. An impeccably dressed man of about her same age stood with his hands on his hips impatiently tapping his toe. With his chin down he was looked up at her through perfectly plucked eyebrows.

She was so startled at seeing him, she almost choked on her banana.Through a mouthful of mush she said, "hi tueshdah, whatchya doig heh?"

"Excuse me?" he walked over to her and pulled a small piece of banana from the loose tendrils around her face and flicked it away.

She swallowed and cleared her throat, "just wondering why you're here?"

He cocked his head from one side to the other and said he should be asking the same question.

"Huh?" the garbage truck was beeping loudly from below. She leaned out over the edge and let her banana peel drop down thirty four stories into the dumpster.

The young man rolled his eyes, and began buttoning up his suit jacket waiting for the beeping noise to stop, "You can't keep doing this."

"Doing wha?" the beeping started again.

"It's not your day," he yelled at her.

Just as the noise stopped she yelled back, "it's not my what?"

"It's not your day." He pulled a palm pilot out from his inside left breast pocket and in one movement flipped back the cover and put it in front of her face. A digital calendar appeared on the screen with redX's through every day that had passed. Her eye followed down to the current week. There was a red X on Monday.

"Oh", she stood up and scrunched her face in an apology, "sorry." She recalled the blur that was sunday and how she'd been completely enthralled in her book. Could she not have noticed losing an entire day, everyone loosing an entire day? The book was pretty incredible. It had really made her feel like she was there, in that small town in Italy after world war II. She couldn't believe she had made everyone loose an entire day. AGAIN.

She started into a cold sweat and looked at him pleadingly, "Oh, no. Oh, no, what am I going to"

"I took care of it." He flipped the cover back on the calendar and slipped the PDA back into his inside pocket. "Just, try to be a little more responsible okay? I had to cancel a date for you." For a moment he looked his age, despite his suit. His cheeks cherried and he half smiled. "I mean, I cant always look out for you. I have a life you know. Right now in fact." He looked at his watch. "I have to go, I'm late for an appointment. Just please, " he awkwardly put his hand on her shoulder and patted. "Please try not to do it again."

"I wont!" She looked so relieved she was almost crying. "I promise, Thank you!" She reached for his hand, just missing it, as he walked across the roof to the door of the building's stairs. He waved his hand over the door knob and then opened the door and disappeared behind it without saying goodbye.

She smoothed her hair back into her ponytail and picked up her bag already day dreaming about which book she would read next. Yawning, she swung her bag back over her shoulder and crawled out onto the fire escape being careful not to slip on the still damp rungs. She couldn't wait to sit with her new book and a huge cup of coffee. She did wonder how Tuesday knew to be there for her yesterday, to fill in. She'd have to find a way to thank him. She dangled from the bottom rung and dropped to the sidewalk. Maybe next week she would bring a thermos so she could have her coffee first.

At a crosswalk, a school bus stopped near her and a line of kids climbed in. She could hear some of them singing a song about the days of the week. She had seven days until she had to be here again. She promised herself she would not mess up next time then crossed the street to her favorite half price bookstore. The owner was in the front window arranging the display and saw her walking towards him. He raised his eyebrows and opened the door for her. She said hello and asked him how he was. He shrugged and said, "The weekend was too short. But aah," he shrugged again "Not so bad for a Monday."

She smiled and sat down next to the rolling rack of the newest of the used. The books he hadn't yet had a chance to place in the store. The owner shook his head and walked into the back office. She turned sideways reading all the book spines, another seven days of reading before her. Monday loved her job.

Friday, April 22, 2005

powerpaddle

Aaah.
Last night was perfect.
Rented a tippy canoe. Paddled with my Pithicus through the arboretum. Saw some wetlands wildlife. Turtles and heron and lilly pads. We pulled up on one of the shores and had our take-out. Pho. Was quite a production to assemble on our laps but I’d still recommend as picnic food.
Okay, now, I wont do this moment justice, but we decide to power paddle across the opening of the Montlake cut. We’re staring into the glaring sunset and noticing the bridge closing. Ahh, what a beautiful place. When heh, all of a sudden out of the shadow of the glare we realize that we aren’t rowing fast enough. A barge, the size of the smith tower, mountained with gravelly piles, is a couple hundred feet and closing in… Heh, made for a nice bit of cardio to end the night with.

Tonight I am excited to see Tori at Benaroya. Yah, she was one of my pubescent favorites. I imagine that briefly and secretly in the dark my hair will grow past my shoulders, become ratty and unmanageable. I will have nothing but defeated albeit creative thoughts about how I can disappear into the corners. I will revel in the melancholic brain of selfcentric poetry, I will think of boys as princes who can save me and while the lights are down and tori is freaking out on the piano bench – I’ll become sixteen again.